10-years ago if anyone said ANYTHING negative about being in a blended family and about their or others they knew who had challenges I would CRY, rebuke (LOL) and not want to deal with them anymore. I was ALWAYS a positive person and truly believe that the power of life and death are in the tongue.Until I realized, that being ignorant, being in love and hanging on to my honeymoon phase was not wise. Knowledge is not power, it is what you do with that knowledge that empowers.
We did so many things that the limited amount of books would tell us to do. We went to conferences and even listened to our parents AND in laws, we prayed, we used our diverse ethnicities as a leverage as to why things were not working out. We were always focused on what was not going right and would find blame on the other’s child, the other spouse, the ex-spouse, or the trusted in law. We were miserable because we were going through some of the heart ache that we went through as children. We lived in this for over 6 years and thought we needed to call it quits for the sake of the children. Both Casey and I were raised in a blended family and the one thing we had was faith. We believed that we could break the cycle and be different than what we experienced growing up. Little did we know that we were only halfway there, We BELIEVED. It was when we started learning about our OWN selves that we were able to create the family and the life that we and our children deserved. Challenges brought Casey and I closer to searching for the techniques and create a system that would QUICKLY get us and anyone else to become a Blended AND Brilliant Family that would THRIVE instead of just survive.
Life is too short and it is the birth right of our WHOLE family of YOUR family to live in peace, love and harmony!